"Friendship"- yes, that is the term we use in our everyday conversation, in our daily routine and want in our life at every moment. We make friends, we celebrate, we argue, share and contest each other. Still we remain friends, and still we want more in our list. All of us wait on our Birthdays when and who calls us up and congratulate us. We dream to become somebody great and see the known faces happy, appreciating and jealous reading our names in headlines.
Our Friends are near to us, they are sometimes far from us and we think of them when we are happy, keep their numbers update to share the achievements, without which everything seems incomplete.
But Friendship as a term covers a huge phenomena and it is not merely a term given to a particular relationship. It is not one of the names in the listing of relationships, that has a definite status. It goes far ahead, beyond individual interactions, gathering, contact lists and socialising.
We all are looking for friendship, from every corner of our life. We expect friendliness from our parents, spouses, relatives, colleagues, neighbours, children and who so ever we meet and interact with. and in that friendliness, we expect them to understand us, our point of view, our philosophy of life, our reactions to different situation, and finally the things we do with those respective people. Our heart breaks if they do not accept us, the way we are, if they take things differently from the way we wanted them to. And all our efforts in life finally aims to fulfil this expectation that we will be able to stand erect in the eyes of our fellow beings, and earn a friendly attitude.
The eternal search for happiness takes a fresh breath of air and suddenly finds its goal, when somebody in some sphere of our life gives us a hearty smile and nods to any of our actions, all of us feel that moment to be the one for which we are living for, our mind gets refreshed, we feel energised and motivated to walk a mile more towards our goal.
But why is this moment so rare? Why do we always need to hanker after such a moment from everybody and why do we come back disappointed in most of the times? People lose interest in life, they end up killing themselves, getting into self-humiliating actions, ruin themselves in the hands of addiction and finally the world becomes a place of animosity filled with anger, hatred and revengeful acts. We are terrorised by the neighbouring countries, by the law, by the police, by the government, by our bosses, colleagues and finally our family members too.
All these show lack of friendly attitude, we all have developed stacks and loads of unfriendly attitude with little understanding and tolerance to others. It is all ME and MINE and never US and OURS.
The reason probably is, we can't see how we look when we don't smile at people. There is no attempt from our side to understand what the other person is feeling. We have heaps of expectation from others that they behave this way and that way, but from our side we try very little to act according to other's expectations. Okay for the time being, if we take it this way, that "people behave the way they want to and they can never be the other person to make someone happy", then doesn't it apply the same for the person in front of us? The other person is also having the right to think in the same manner, so there we can't accept and start a fight.
So, here is where the shoe is pinching. We expect things from others and also expect that they don't expect the same from us. But just for the sake of imagining a logical possibility, can't we wait a minute before judging the other person why must he be doing that thing? Can't we provide any scope to each other with an open mind to explain their point of view? Isn't that we are expecting everyday from everybody? Isn't that the actual definition of Friendship? But as we know, any relation is a communication and has to have a two way traffic. We cannot put obstacles on one way and expect our vehicle to move fast and smooth.
When we talk about spirituality, religion, ethics and philosophy, what I guess is, we are all tying to define that we need friendship, and living a way where others can come and play in our Garden. That is the best possible way to be Religious, Spiritual, Ethical and Philosophical. Remember, the story of the Selfish Giant? That is our own story, we sometimes become the giant, and we only become the little boy. When we are the "little boy", we can convert big selfish giants into selfless angels but when we ourselves become selfish, we smash the flowers of Friendship in our lives which could make a Paradise around us to live in , and continue to struggle in our self-created HELL.
Our Friends are near to us, they are sometimes far from us and we think of them when we are happy, keep their numbers update to share the achievements, without which everything seems incomplete.
But Friendship as a term covers a huge phenomena and it is not merely a term given to a particular relationship. It is not one of the names in the listing of relationships, that has a definite status. It goes far ahead, beyond individual interactions, gathering, contact lists and socialising.
We all are looking for friendship, from every corner of our life. We expect friendliness from our parents, spouses, relatives, colleagues, neighbours, children and who so ever we meet and interact with. and in that friendliness, we expect them to understand us, our point of view, our philosophy of life, our reactions to different situation, and finally the things we do with those respective people. Our heart breaks if they do not accept us, the way we are, if they take things differently from the way we wanted them to. And all our efforts in life finally aims to fulfil this expectation that we will be able to stand erect in the eyes of our fellow beings, and earn a friendly attitude.
The eternal search for happiness takes a fresh breath of air and suddenly finds its goal, when somebody in some sphere of our life gives us a hearty smile and nods to any of our actions, all of us feel that moment to be the one for which we are living for, our mind gets refreshed, we feel energised and motivated to walk a mile more towards our goal.
But why is this moment so rare? Why do we always need to hanker after such a moment from everybody and why do we come back disappointed in most of the times? People lose interest in life, they end up killing themselves, getting into self-humiliating actions, ruin themselves in the hands of addiction and finally the world becomes a place of animosity filled with anger, hatred and revengeful acts. We are terrorised by the neighbouring countries, by the law, by the police, by the government, by our bosses, colleagues and finally our family members too.
All these show lack of friendly attitude, we all have developed stacks and loads of unfriendly attitude with little understanding and tolerance to others. It is all ME and MINE and never US and OURS.
The reason probably is, we can't see how we look when we don't smile at people. There is no attempt from our side to understand what the other person is feeling. We have heaps of expectation from others that they behave this way and that way, but from our side we try very little to act according to other's expectations. Okay for the time being, if we take it this way, that "people behave the way they want to and they can never be the other person to make someone happy", then doesn't it apply the same for the person in front of us? The other person is also having the right to think in the same manner, so there we can't accept and start a fight.
So, here is where the shoe is pinching. We expect things from others and also expect that they don't expect the same from us. But just for the sake of imagining a logical possibility, can't we wait a minute before judging the other person why must he be doing that thing? Can't we provide any scope to each other with an open mind to explain their point of view? Isn't that we are expecting everyday from everybody? Isn't that the actual definition of Friendship? But as we know, any relation is a communication and has to have a two way traffic. We cannot put obstacles on one way and expect our vehicle to move fast and smooth.
When we talk about spirituality, religion, ethics and philosophy, what I guess is, we are all tying to define that we need friendship, and living a way where others can come and play in our Garden. That is the best possible way to be Religious, Spiritual, Ethical and Philosophical. Remember, the story of the Selfish Giant? That is our own story, we sometimes become the giant, and we only become the little boy. When we are the "little boy", we can convert big selfish giants into selfless angels but when we ourselves become selfish, we smash the flowers of Friendship in our lives which could make a Paradise around us to live in , and continue to struggle in our self-created HELL.
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