Five ways to recognise a True Friend
Here is the upcoming Friendship Day, and we are all busy celebrating this wonderful occasion worldwide. Many of us are planning to have a nice and exciting hangout, many are busy choosing friendship cards and gifts, some are looking this as a new opportunity to make new friends and enhance their friend circle.
But in this occasion, we can also do something a little bit more meaningful, which will ease our life a bit and add up some more spice to this auspicious day. Let's ponder a bit, about what this friendship means in its real sense of the term. spending a little time on this issue can change our mind, can change our perspectives and finally change our lives for good.
What do we think, when we call this Day as Friendship Day? Does it mean only a day with some happy moments and eventful day out? does it only mean some giggles with buddies, gathering in coffee shops, buying gifts and sending cards? Does it have any more significance which can matter truly in our lives?
Yes, it means a lot more than fun and frolics.
Friendship is the basis of all relationships. be it individual to individual or among groups of people as small as a friend circle and as big as international relationships. Friendship can be glimpsed at a corner of a classroom, in a sit out, in a conference room and even in battle fields.
But coming down to individual thoughts, we can recognise a true friend in every relationship, if we get to see these few traits and components:
1. A true friend will never give excuse.
If two people are real friends, they will never give lame excuses for anything that didn't go well. They may forget important days, each other's birthdays, some small commitments, but they will tell the truth that they forgot about it.
2.A true friend can never insult each other.
There is no guarantee that true friends will always have sweet talks. They can fight like hell, but fighting and insulting are two different things. A true friend can fight but never insult his friend. He may oppose to some decisions, he may have difference of opinions, but he can never give a feeling that his friend is worthless.
3. A true friend will criticise on your face but never do back biting.
If two friends are truly friends and are not happy with each other over something they will criticize and oppose each other on the face but they can never do back biting in the absence of each other. They will point out the weaknesses being face to face, but will never ever let others know about it.
4. A true friend cannot be jealous.
It is a very common phenomenon, that whom we know or call as friends give unexpectedly negative reactions to our story of success. In that case it is a clear indication, that the person concerned is not our true friend. A true friend will have a spontaneous reaction of happiness, when they come to know about our success or good news.
5. A true friend will not make you feel guilty.
A true friend will never unnecessarily confuse you or make you feel guilty for no good reason. Even if we commit some mistakes, they can point out, or make us aware of it, but they can never keep mentioning the weaknesses we have so that we feel embarrassed or guilty.
Apart from these friendliness is something which involves a warm heart and real affection, it is something to be felt through the heart, and through the joy we feel at their presence. In all types of relationship, what we actually look for is friendship. A father becomes the best, when he can become the best friend of his child, same with the mother, a teacher earns all the popularity through his or her friendly way of teaching and behaving with students. A colleague or a boss, a sibling or a cousin, among all of them we look for a friend.
Same with the relation between the nations and their people. In the name of spirituality, religion, ethics , laws and philosophy, people are killing each other, but the irony is, all their apostles of religion, spirituality, philosophy, law and order have asked them only to be friendly with each other and that is the ultimate human philosophy and religion.
If we are friendly, we create our Paradise, if we can't, we ourselves in our self-made Hell.
Here is the upcoming Friendship Day, and we are all busy celebrating this wonderful occasion worldwide. Many of us are planning to have a nice and exciting hangout, many are busy choosing friendship cards and gifts, some are looking this as a new opportunity to make new friends and enhance their friend circle.
But in this occasion, we can also do something a little bit more meaningful, which will ease our life a bit and add up some more spice to this auspicious day. Let's ponder a bit, about what this friendship means in its real sense of the term. spending a little time on this issue can change our mind, can change our perspectives and finally change our lives for good.
What do we think, when we call this Day as Friendship Day? Does it mean only a day with some happy moments and eventful day out? does it only mean some giggles with buddies, gathering in coffee shops, buying gifts and sending cards? Does it have any more significance which can matter truly in our lives?
Yes, it means a lot more than fun and frolics.
Friendship is the basis of all relationships. be it individual to individual or among groups of people as small as a friend circle and as big as international relationships. Friendship can be glimpsed at a corner of a classroom, in a sit out, in a conference room and even in battle fields.
But coming down to individual thoughts, we can recognise a true friend in every relationship, if we get to see these few traits and components:
1. A true friend will never give excuse.
If two people are real friends, they will never give lame excuses for anything that didn't go well. They may forget important days, each other's birthdays, some small commitments, but they will tell the truth that they forgot about it.
2.A true friend can never insult each other.
There is no guarantee that true friends will always have sweet talks. They can fight like hell, but fighting and insulting are two different things. A true friend can fight but never insult his friend. He may oppose to some decisions, he may have difference of opinions, but he can never give a feeling that his friend is worthless.
3. A true friend will criticise on your face but never do back biting.
If two friends are truly friends and are not happy with each other over something they will criticize and oppose each other on the face but they can never do back biting in the absence of each other. They will point out the weaknesses being face to face, but will never ever let others know about it.
4. A true friend cannot be jealous.
It is a very common phenomenon, that whom we know or call as friends give unexpectedly negative reactions to our story of success. In that case it is a clear indication, that the person concerned is not our true friend. A true friend will have a spontaneous reaction of happiness, when they come to know about our success or good news.
5. A true friend will not make you feel guilty.
A true friend will never unnecessarily confuse you or make you feel guilty for no good reason. Even if we commit some mistakes, they can point out, or make us aware of it, but they can never keep mentioning the weaknesses we have so that we feel embarrassed or guilty.
Apart from these friendliness is something which involves a warm heart and real affection, it is something to be felt through the heart, and through the joy we feel at their presence. In all types of relationship, what we actually look for is friendship. A father becomes the best, when he can become the best friend of his child, same with the mother, a teacher earns all the popularity through his or her friendly way of teaching and behaving with students. A colleague or a boss, a sibling or a cousin, among all of them we look for a friend.
Same with the relation between the nations and their people. In the name of spirituality, religion, ethics , laws and philosophy, people are killing each other, but the irony is, all their apostles of religion, spirituality, philosophy, law and order have asked them only to be friendly with each other and that is the ultimate human philosophy and religion.
If we are friendly, we create our Paradise, if we can't, we ourselves in our self-made Hell.
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